Blog Posts & Essays

Adoptee Wound, Birth Mother Wound, Birth Mother Grief, Adoptee Grief, Adoption Reunion, Adoption Trauma, Essays, Adoption Monica Hall Adoptee Wound, Birth Mother Wound, Birth Mother Grief, Adoptee Grief, Adoption Reunion, Adoption Trauma, Essays, Adoption Monica Hall

What’s a "Real Mother?" An Adoptee & Birth Mother Perspective

Today marks four years since Mama (my adoptive mother) passed away. She was 94. I loved her with my whole heart, but our relationship had many complexities, and we were nothing alike.

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Adoptee Wound, Birth Mother Wound, Adoptee Grief, Adoption Trauma, Adoptee Trauma, Essays, Adoption Monica Hall Adoptee Wound, Birth Mother Wound, Adoptee Grief, Adoption Trauma, Adoptee Trauma, Essays, Adoption Monica Hall

My Daughter Finally Named Her Adoptee Pain

I could see in my daughter’s eyes that she was on the verge of tears when she called to FaceTime me on a Sunday morning. I asked, “What’s wrong?” She said she was sad and didn’t know why. She thought it was just hormones, but I sensed the underlying cause…

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Healing Birth Mother T..., Birth Mother Grief, Adoptee Grief, Adoption Reunion, Adoption Trauma, Essays Monica Hall Healing Birth Mother T..., Birth Mother Grief, Adoptee Grief, Adoption Reunion, Adoption Trauma, Essays Monica Hall

Shameful Secrets Of A Birth Mother

A few months ago, I was going through a box of keepsakes from 1973—the year I gave my baby up for adoption. Inside were the treasures I carted first from Alaska to California and then through eleven additional moves over the last 44 years…

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